Tuesday, November 20, 2012

I have mentioned here that lately, life is complicated.  I'm doing lots of sorting out and evaluating and deciding and understanding and learning.  Things are changing, which is not a bad outcome.  Just ... well.. complicated.  Transitions generally are.  So please forgive what are likely to be continued gaps while I sort how my new life will look.  I see light ahead and I know I am moving toward something peaceful, and that is a good thing.

This morning I was reading blogs (oh, how I love the Flipboard app on my Ipad) with my morning coffee, and I came across one in which a life-coach sort of fellow brought up the subject of analyzing his life in terms of the non-negotiables.  And that got me thinking: what in my day to day life is non-negotiable, in terms of how I spend my time and where I put my priorities? 

Here's where I am so far:

1.  Taking care of my daughter -- making sure she is well and happy and emotionally supported
2.  Feeling good about my living space
3.  Being connected to family and friends
4.  Feeling hope -- looking forward to something each day, however small
5.  Reading -- I need to read like I need to breathe.
6.  Doing something creative.  

I undoubtedly could come up with more the longer I think about this.

Thinking of "non-negotiables" applies to all sorts of aspects of our lives, now that I think about it.  Values.  Qualities in a relationship.  Requirements for life-work.

But for the day to day, priority of activity, what is your non-negotiable list?


  1. Hoping and praying for the best for you. Change can be HARD, that much I know. I'm glad you're able to see light ahead.

  2. I'm glad to hear that things are sorting out, however slowly. Seeing the light at the end of the tunnel is crucial. I'm not exactly sure what is non-negotiable in my life as I have learned to be quite flexible and tolerant of "not quite." Not living south of NC has been a stated non-negotiable, but it's never been tested. Daily, I'd say a little time for me is a requirement.

  3. Sometimes it feels like the only constant is change...
    Wishing you many moments of serenity as you chart a new course, and hoping that this Thanksgiving brings you much to be grateful for.

  4. My list is remarkably similar to yours. I hope you are feeling more positive day by day.